Decisions, Decisions
Remember when dating was as simple as a note passed between classmates? The only thing you had to do was check ‘Yes’, ‘No’, or ‘Maybe’. Not to mention those were also the times when the boys asked the girls out.
Fast Forward to 2013 and the only thing guys care to ask is ” Whatchu on?” “Do you want to watch a movie at my house?” or “Do you wanna grab a bottle?” To answer those questions: NOTHIN’, HEWL NAW and YES! I wanna grab abottle to BUST you upside yo head! Somewhere along the lines of life women have lowered their standards so men have lowered they inhibitions which, inturn makes men feel entitled to treat women of substance with the same disregard and tackiness they treat hoodrats, skip skabs and scally wags.
First of all I’ll admit that I am somewhat rusty by way of, I’ve been with my first love since I was 19 til I was 26, so everything I thought I knew about dating at 19 is on a totally different scale of a 27 year old. So I’m learning as I go but I’m a fast learner. Anyway, I can’t seem to make it to a first date. There are ALWAYS barriers that prevent a sista from gettin a free meal. (YES thats right I said it! I’m tired of always takin myself out, paying admission to the movies; do you know how much popcorn and cherry coke costs at the movies? I’m ready to be treated and spoiled.) I appreciate the speediness of God and his Grace and Mercy he blesses me with not allowing no good nothins and fools to outstay their welcome in my life, so I almost feel I can’t complain but me being me I’m gonna rant and rave anyway in Jesus name:
The Barber- When I saw him he wasn’t my type; he was ugly & dark as hell, not the “Mmm sexy chocolate of a man” dark but crispy, crunchy scrape the burnt off the toast dark. In my mind all of the dating experts advice rang in my ear, Step out of your comfort zone, the love you seek may not be in the package you perfer, relax, at least have fun. With that said, he asked for my number and I, somewhat hesitantly, obliged. We talked on the phone once and the next time we talked he asked me to stop by his house since, ironically, I was at the store up the street from his house. Immediately I began seeing “red flags”. First, he asked me to park at the corner and not in front of his house. Second, I was about to get out of the car and he said, “naw, sit in the car, I’ll sit in with you.” Third, his phone kept vibrating simultaniously with the irate woman pacing up and down the street who was angrily pressing redial. Me, knowing that good and bad things come in 3s I rapidly caught her attention and unlocked my doors allowing her to open the passenger side door, pull him out by his collar and proceed to give him a Mississippi style butt whoopin’.
The “Entrepreneur”- I met him in the grocery store. I was in line behind him, he was purchasing two bottles of Riesling. Looking at him I would have pegged him for a Henny(Hennessy) sipper, his selection in spirits intrigued me more than his swagger. By the time he paid and cool guy walked to and out of the door my items were paid for and bagged and I caught up to him as I had hoped- to see if he would ask me for my name, number or at least a “Hi, how you doin’?” As luck would have it he stopped and asked for my digits. A few days later he called and we chatted, he seemed like a regular guy which is rare. The next day we made plans to meet up in the parking lot of a restaurant which seemed like a neutral spot because I surely did not care to let him know where I lived. First, he arrived almost 30 minutes late after texts and calls of “I’m 5 minutes away”. Second, we couldn’t go to an establishment because he was waiting on someone to drop him a “package”. In my mind I’m thinking “Aw hewl naw!” it was dinner time and this fool got the nerve to not even TRY to get a meal in my belly I knew he was trippin’. Third, while we sat in his car waiting for a “package” that never showed up he reached in the backseat to pull out a bottle of wine followed by a wine opener and two child’s cups from McDonalds that had Ronald flipping to the golden arches. As I sat there in utter disbelief he continued to pressure me into having a sip of the wine that may as well have been in a paper bag like a wine-o. He proceded to talk about himself, all of his accomplishments and fraternity. This fella made it seem like he was a mover and a shaker and if I joined him I’d be moving and shaking as well. An hour and a half worth of all emptiness because the next day the brotha showed up to my job (not knowing that this was my place of employment) needing assistance with paying his light and gas bill. As I whispered to a co-worker “let me see his application” he sat in the lobby awaiting his “package” of utility credits. The name he told me was a lie, the level of education he had accomplished was a lie, his place of residency was a lie and his ‘bands’ of money was most certainly not a reality.
To sum, dating in my world is a JOKE! I enjoy having stories to share with my girls over a glass of wine from a long stemmed GLASS and not a wax/paper cup. Very recently, I have decided to forgo the dating scene and laugh at these fools from a distance because my time is much too valuable to clown around.
-Ms. J Singling and not mingling!
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